Deep dating questions
"I think people are ready at different times," says L.
Kris Gowen, Ph D, Ed M, a researcher in sexual and mental health at the Portland State University School of Social Work.
What should I know about you that I’d never think to ask about?
Gowen says being ready to go out has more to do with your maturity than your age. For one thing, could you tell the person you're dating how far you're willing to take the relationship, and what your sexual boundaries are?"Just because a girl looks like she's 16 when she's only 11, it doesn't mean that psychologically or emotionally she's ready to date older boys...they are so much more skilled at this dating game than she would be, and they can manipulate her and hurt her," says Laura Choate, Ed D, a licensed professional counselor, associate professor of counselor education at Louisiana State University, and author of the book, Girls' and Women's Wellness: Contemporary Counseling Issues and Interventions."Have you had a talk with yourself to say, 'Am I comfortable with kissing somebody, holding their hand, undressing to a certain level, caressing? These are decisions you need to make ahead of time -- not when you're in the middle of a make-out session and your date is pressuring you to go further.
Once you know your limits, you need to be strong and secure enough to say "no" or "stop" if things are getting too hot and heavy.
" Are you ready to handle the pressures of hanging out -- and possibly hooking up -- with someone?