Dating too soon after separation
When you are describing your relationship to a friend, notice the words you use. What are the highlights that you are proud to share about this person? Are you open and free with your expressions of affection or desire? Are you holding back, or withholding some information for fear of upsetting the other person?
All of these are clues that the relating part of the relationship might still need some exploration. And now that we have our kids, and our independence, we can be more intentional and clear about what we want in our next relationship.
And if you can’t articulate what you are looking for, if your vague, or simply lonely, you might want to keep working on yourself, and your approach to relationships before jumping right back into one.
Drinking together can be fun, but it shouldn’t be a lifestyle choice, unless you are both into it.
Listen to yourself as you talk about the relationship as well.I have a deep respect for my role model as a dad, and as a man.I am showing both my daughter and my son how a man acts in the world.How have they accepted their own responsibility for the divorce. Walking away from a marriage is hard work, and the way someone tells their divorce story is important. You’d think that if someone is dating again that they are ready for a relationship. You’d even imagine, that someone who puts up a dating profile online, and who talks about what they want in their next relationship, probably has some intention of being in a relationship. I have been on quite a few dates where the woman had no idea what they wanted.