Chat with older women
Not so their female counterparts, who by this point are keen to stop wasting time, their biological clocks ticking ever more loudly.
And so, says Smedley, these men go for much younger women who haven't got round to thinking about such things - or women significantly older who 'they still find very attractive' and who have already had children or decided they didn't want them.'Young women often view men as success objects (ie defined and rated by how much they earn and own) - and there's less chance of that with a more mature woman who, chances are, has already attained her own success.
They shouldn't give that up until they're ready and an age gap relationship can offer that.'They can also be more adventurous and able to afford luxurious Mrs Robinson-style lingerie.
I'd wager it wasn't only young things flocking to hardware stores to buy rope after the Fifty Shades Of Grey books and film came out.
Believe it or not, lots of men want to date us -- older men, men our age and even younger men are trying to catch our eye.
Many young women, the men say, have serious body issues, are insecure and inexperienced.
Every survey in the past ten years has borne this out.
This levels the playing field a bit more.'We hit the floor, he clearly believing himself to be the reincarnation of Patrick Swayze in Dirty Dancing.
And despite my flailing efforts, he kept telling me what a great mover I was on the dancefloor.
Back when I was in my 40s, younger men would write me online all the time and I'd always say, "Are you looking for a mom? " They just felt younger women were too high maintenance for them and had far too much drama in their lives.